This summer has been a true summer of learning for me. One in which I learned the most from examples that others around me set. And as I took those lessons and started changing the ways I did some things in my life, I figured it could be good to share a few of those lessons with you!
What I learned the most this summer, and it was something I already knew but it was nice to be reminded of, was that the little things truly are what matters most.
It's those little things that can end up making the biggest difference. But because it's "the little things" sometimes we overlook making sure we do them. Here's a few "little things" I was reminded of or taught this summer....
1. Make People Feel Important
This summer I had to book a last minute hotel for one night in Austin. I was trying to find somewhere pretty cheap to stay and I had seen that a new Holiday Inn Express had opened up on the south side of Austin, so I went ahead and booked there. While at the first day of a conference I was attending, I got a call from the hotel, before I had even checked in.
It was about noon, and and I answered the phone. The hotel told me that they were just calling to tell me how excited they were to have me as a guest that evening and they just wanted to check if there was anything they could do before I got there to make sure I had a great arrival. I was taken aback. Never before had I had a hotel call me before I checked in to tell me they were excited I was staying with them. Much less even ask me if I needed anything prepared.
When I arrived, they were incredibly friendly and kind. And when I woke up the next morning, I had a hand written card slid under my door. The card was written to me and told me that they hoped I had a great stay and that they hoped I would return again.
These little things this hotel did didn't cost them anything. But man did they make a difference. That was over 3 months ago and I still tell everyone about that stay. I even called the manager to let him know how important his staff made me feel. The next time I stay in Austin, I can guarantee you I'll be staying there again.
2. Use a person's name when speaking to them
I had the extreme pleasure of spending, on several occasions, multiple days with Brad Gustafson. If you haven't heard of, or aren't following Brad Gustafson, you are missing out. This man is a fireball of energy and one of the most encouraging and inspirational people I know. Brad doesn't even know that he taught me this next lesson.
As I spent over 9 days total with Brad this summer, there was one thing that he continually did that I noticed and it impacted me pretty greatly. Every where we went, every place that we came in contact with others, he spoke to the people working at that establishment and used their names. His first question was always "what's your name again?".
When we would check into a hotel, get in a cab, eat a restaurant, it didn't matter. Brad asked for their name and in the entire conversation we would have with the person, he would continually use their name.
It was something so simple. So easy, but I swear we consistently received better service because he did it. And I watched the interactions. The people Brad did this with had a more pleasant air about them when he did it. Do you know why? Because they felt noticed. They felt seen.
Any job that requires the worker to be a servant to others can sometimes be thankless. And just that act of using their name makes such a difference.
3. Notice the Loners
People see me present or spend time with me in a small group and get this picture of me as a boisterous and outgoing person. The reality of the matter is that I can be very introverted in large groups or crowds of people I don't know.
I'm the person, in a room of people, who will go find a back table in a corner and sit at it and sip my water (Erin Klein and I love sharing this in common). I'll talk if you come up to me, but I don't actively seek out others. In my traveling and speaking I've found that there are quite a few of us presenters who are full of energy on stage, and off stage more low key and reserved.
What can happen though is people like me can begin to feel out of the "circle" of people actively interacting.
Something I learned from Ben Gilpin, Adam Welcome, Theresa Stager, Tony Sinanis, and Melinda Miller this summer was the act of continually seeking out those "loners" like me, and finding ways to make them feel involved or included.
Ben, Adam, Theresa, Tony, and Melinda have no idea that they ever did this for me, but each of them did in different ways. Whenever I would try to slink away or hide off at a quiet table, one of them would come find me and either sit with me or pull me back into the circle.
It reminded me that I need to do the same with others. When people get into social settings they can feel intimidated, not worthy, sometimes an outcast, and so many other things. What people need are reminders that they belong. They need someone to reach out a hand and pull them back in, or to just go and sit with them. This again goes back to wanting to be noticed.
4. Give them a Voice
I remember creating a session for a conference I was attending this year. It was a panel type discussion but I hadn't selected any of the participants when I submitted the proposal. I just said "Tech Ninja and Friends".
When I arrived at the conference, I reached out to a few people I knew to see if they would present as part of the panel. These weren't "well known" or "traveling presenters". They were teachers who only left their school for this one major conference and for edcamps.
But I remembered what it was like when someone I respected asked me to speak with them, and I wanted to return the favor.
I still remember what one of the presenter's wives walking up to me after the presentation (which had about 1,500 people in attendance to watch) said to me. She had tears in her eyes and she said, "thank you for including him. It made such a big deal to him that you would even ask him, much less share a stage with him".
What that reminded me of is that those of us who have large followings or influence, we must continually bring others up with us. We must continually find ways to give others a voice to speak and share. Each of us are in education for a reason and each of us have something of incredible worth to share.
5. Favorites, Retweets, and Interactions
Finally, something I was reminded of this summer was yet again the power of social media. I have people that I look up an incredible amount to. People I respect immensely. People that when I finally get to meet them in person I get shy, really want a picture, and want to shake their hand. I think we all get like that sometimes.
Throughout this summer I had the honor of having online interactions (and a few face to face) with some of my EduHeroes like Erik Wahl, Steve Spangler, Dave Burgess, Kim Bearden, Ron Clark, Angela Maiers, and so many more.
Interactions that my wife can attest to, had me taking screenshots of things and dancing around the house.
Just the simple action of favoriting someones tweet. Sharing their idea and giving them credit, or just sending a "you're doing awesome things!" message really makes a difference.
And then I remember one of my last keynotes of the summer having the organizer come up to me and say, "you know we have a lot of guest speakers, but you do something I haven't seen the others do. Every time any person comes up to you and talks to you, you give them the same excitement, the same attention as the other 100 that came up to you before them. You make each of them feel like they're the most important person and like they're the first person who's ever come up to you". I had never really thought about it much before, but I know I do it for a reason.
I do it because everyone deserves to feel special and to know that they're important. And if I've been given even a little bit of a platform to speak on I want them to leave knowing at least that, because I also know exactly what it feels like to feel invisible.
So there are a few of my lessons I learned from this summer. A few "little things" that can make a world of difference.
I know I'm not done learning, and by no means am I an expert at any of the above listed items, but I am continually practicing. Continually learning. Continually getting better.
So, what are some "little things" that you've noticed that can make a big difference? Share them in the comments below!